“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” – – – F. Scott Fitzgerald
One of my goals in life was to be a superstar basketball player. Unfortunately, after several knee injuries, I quickly realized that was not to be. So I decided to join the band. Joining the band was no easy task. I listened to music every day, but I had never played a musical instrument. After trying several instruments, I decided on the tuba.
In order to join the band, you were required to play before the director. Essentially, this was a tryout. So, I went home and I practiced and practiced. And it was tryout time. I played and I did a horrible job. I let my nervousness get the best of me. The band director even suggested that I consider other options outside the band. I felt defeated. But I knew I could do better. This was not my final defeat.
I convinced the band director to give me another chance. This time, I talked with other band players, studied my music more intensely, and I practiced and worked even harder. I was determined to succeed. I played before the director again and I made the band. I eventually became one of the best tuba players in my high school. I made it to the top (symphonic) band and I was a section leader in the marching band. We won numerous awards competing with bands from all across the country.
Maybe you are experiencing some problems with your job, a friend, family members, or just dealing with some tough moments. Maybe you have failed at something. But that doesn’t make you a failure. You have time. Don’t let difficult people or situations get you down. Continue on and work hard like I did. You may not get it initially. But with the right attitude and some hard work, I know you will soon be marching to your own beat of success!!!
Arturo S. Menefee, Ph.D.
These are thoughts of Dr. Arturo Menefee – not the thoughts of ACLN or UACED. This is copyrighted material and may not be reproduced without the author’s consent.